Could Christmas be the final straw in your marriage?

On Behalf of | Dec 10, 2021 | Divorce |

New year, new life: That is how many married partners think. Some have been planning divorce for months and only put it off to avoid ruining the holidays for the kids. Others have been driven to it by the events of the past few weeks.

Divorce filings drop toward the end of the year and begin to climb once the clock chimes in a new year. What is it that makes the holidays hard for married couples?

You have to spend time together

The holidays are the equivalent of the harsh lights around a vanity mirror. They throw all the flaws in your relationship into stark contrast. Everyday life is simpler, as you do not have to see each other all the time, yet when you are both off work, you do not get the time apart that allows you to forget about each other’s annoying habits or to take time to think about how you will respond calmly to something your spouse said.

Too much to do and too little time to do it

Let’s say you and your spouse work a half-day on the 24th. The next day you have the whole family around for lunch. If you were too busy to shop early, you will be running around trying to buy food, drink and gifts. You also have to tidy the house, dig out the posh cutlery from the attic, prepare the starter, peel the vegetables, stuff the turkey and more. All while dealing with two kids bouncing off the walls with excitement. If you feel your spouse is not pulling their weight, you may start to realize exactly what you need (and aren’t getting) from your marriage.

The new year is as good a time as any to take the first steps to a new future. If the holidays have highlighted that your marriage is beyond redemption, consider finding out more about how divorce works.